We will quote again from the sefer on the Tosher Rebbe ( page 159):
If there was a word that caused the Rebbe to react with distaste, it was the term אנש /Anash/ which is an acronym for Anshei Shlomeinu/ Our people; the people we have peace with. It’s a term used to describe the inner circle of Hasidim; those that are connected with the organization.
It made no difference to this Rebbi what type of hasid a person was, or what his level of observance was. There was no concept of an inner circle or a priority list when it came to helping others. That is an important rule.
The Rebbe would often circle the Yeshiva, and there was a certain boy, who would hurry to open the door for the Rebbi, and hold it open as the Rebbi passed through as a sign of respect for the Sadik.
One day, the boy’s father came for a visit, along with his son. The Rebbi told the father,
“Your son has tremendous derech eretz for me.“ And then he turned to the boy and said, “You should show that very same respect to every single person, not just to me.“ That is a lesson. A lot of times we show respect to the high priority, connected people. The simple people don’t necessarily get that same respect.
The sefer then tells a story about the Rebbe and how he cared for everybody’s respect.
Hasidim have a custom called a Tish (which means table in Yiddish), where on Friday nights, they all gather around their Rebbi’s table. There was a visiting dignitary one night, and the Rebbe noticed that he was sitting in a chair that was usually reserved for the Rebbi‘s eldest son in law. The Rebbe realized that when his son-in-law came in, there was a good chance that the guest would feel uncomfortable when he realized that he was sitting in somebody’s place. He might get embarrassed. So the Rebbi immediately turned to his Gabbai and asked, as a favor, to please go to his son-in-law‘s house, to ask him if he could read the Parasha the next morning. He said he was too tired to prepare, and that,
“If he stays home, instead of coming to my Friday night table, he will have enough time to prepare.“
A close hasid saw the entire exchange and understood what really had happened. The Rebbe, who read the Torah every Shabbat and never once missed, had asked somebody else to substitute, because he saw a potential problem. The man might get embarrassed, so he devised a solution and executed his plan in just a few seconds. His mind, which was able to work very quickly to figure out halachic questions worked just as quickly to figure out how he could cause this person to avoid heartache.
That is great people.