These past few days, we have discussing the concept that you cannot have love for somebody else until you’re happy with your own situation. Rav Ades once said that it is actually a pasuk in Devarim, Perek לג/כג
Moshe Rabbenu‘s blessing to Naftali was,
וּלְנַפְתָּלִי אָמַר נַפְתָּלִי שְׂבַע רָצוֹן וּמָלֵא בִּרְכַּת ה׳
“Naftali is satiated with good will, and is full of the blessing of God.
Rav Ades said that it’s not that he is happy because he is full of the blessings of God, but rather, it’s the opposite.
First he is שבע רצון- he’s satiated with good will.
Just as people can be satiated with food and drink, he was satiated with Ratzon. He was happy and at peace.
He was Sameach B’Helko/happy with his lot.
One of the commentaries says,
פּוֹתֵחַ אֶת־יָדֶךָ וּמַשְׂבִּיעַ לְכׇל־חַי רָצוֹן
“God opens up His hands and He satiates everybody with good will.“
That is the real satiation that we need-not with food or drink or money. We should be satisfied and at peace with ourselves, and not be chasing anything or anybody.
This traces itself back to Ve’Ahavta Le’Reecha Kamocha/loving your friends like you love yourself..
There is a Mishna in Masechet Avot (chapter 5, Mishna 13), which talks about four types of people that give Sedaka:
The first is a person who wants to give, and doesn’t want others to give. On him we say, “He has a bad eye on other people.”
This person doesn’t want other people to be successful. He wants to have all the charity for himself
The second person wants others to give, but he doesn’t want to give.
The third person wants to give, and he wants others to give as well. That is a Hasid/a pious one- this person wants to be successful and he wants his friends to be successful also.
On that, Rav Yosef Ibn Shushan, on Pirkei Avot says, “That is the man of Ve’Ahavta Le’Reecha Kamocha- he wants to give, and he wants his friends to have that same merit. He’s not looking to keep the zechuyot for himself.
The fourth person doesn’t want to give and he doesn’t want others to give. He is considered a Rasha.
We are aiming for Hasidut. We want to give and we want others to give. We aren’t out to keep everything for ourselves.
Be’ezrat Hashem, we will be the שבע רצון and be satiated with good will.
פּוֹתֵחַ אֶת־יָדֶךָ וּמַשְׂבִּיעַ לְכׇל־חַי רָצוֹן
“God opens up His hands and He satiates everybody with good will.”