Welcome to the Daily Chizuk. The Steipler writes in Chayei Olam that ga'avah, pride, is a natural character trait without cause or reason. It is found by all people alike, from the smallest children to the most brilliant elders. There are no exceptions. It is found among the most civilized people, even a king. If you do something against a person's kavod (honor), they are angry. If you give them a compliment, they glow. Most stress in life comes from feeling that I didn't get the honor I deserved. When I'm being respected, I'm the happiest. The Shevet Musar writes that if a person doesn't correct this midah (trait), all of his days will be filled with pain and worry. He'll always be expecting people to respect him, and he'll always feel that he's been slighted. When he doesn't get what he thinks is coming to him, he'll be filled with stress, anger, and annoyance.
We're going to read in the Parashah. He had everything. He was the wealthiest man in the Midbar (wilderness). He was a chacham (wise man). He had a following. But he didn't get the position that he felt he deserved, and it ruined his life. How do we overcome this midah? The Pasuk (verse) in Divrei HaYamim says: We all know that our money comes from Hashem. We work hard on internalizing that people can't take or give me any money if it wasn't first decreed by Hashem. But the Parashah says: The exact same thing applies to kavod. Targum Rav Yosef translates that Pasuk to be saying: Any honor that you receive in life is decided by and given to you only by Hashem. Although it might appear that B'derech HaTeva (by natural means) you were slighted, and “How dare they not recognize me?” Hashem, in His infinite kindness, decided that it would be the best thing for you not to be recognized. If you knew why, you would have for sure agreed. There is no other way. There is never a reason to feel animosity toward a person who didn't give you honor. He's just a puppet carrying out the will of Hashem, who loves you more than anything.
Imagine a famous Chazan (cantor) walks into a shul (synagogue) that he doesn't normally go to. He sits down in the back somewhere, expecting to be invited to sit closer. He thinks to himself, “They're for sure going to invite me to say Nishmat today.” But Nishmat comes, and no one invites him. “Okay,” he says. “They're for sure going to ask me to read it to them, or at least give me an Aliyah (Torah call-up).” But the Torah comes out, and no one asked him to read. Now he's waiting to be invited for an Aliyah. He figures he'll get Aliyah Yisrael. And again, he's overlooked. Now he thinks to himself, “They're probably waiting to give me Aliyah Shishi (sixth aliyah).” And again, he wasn't called. “Must be, they want me to have Maftir (final Torah reading) so that I could read the Haftarah.” And again, they skip him. Finally, he thinks, “Okay. For sure they're going to give me Musaf.” And again, no one looked at him. This Chazan could leave the shul that day in agony: “How dare they not notice me?” His Shabbat is ruined, and he hates the shul.
But someone who knows that no one in that shul had any say. “If Hashem wanted me to be the Chazan, I would have been noticed. But Hashem knows better than me.” That person will leave the shul. And I will leave the shul with a smile and thank Hashem for giving him exactly what he needed. This type of Emunah (faith) will save you years of stress. You'll never say, “I deserved it. I was so qualified. I should have been president,” or, “How dare they not come over and say hello to me?” If you could internalize this, you'll have so much more Ahavat Yisrael (love of fellow Jews). Stop blaming people. If Hashem wants you to have honor, no one could stand in His way. And if He doesn't want you to have the honor, then no one could give it to you. Shabbat Shalom.