Okay, we are doing the Pele Yoetz. We are up to the entry called Cheresh. They should know he’s a deaf person. There are a few things that are considered to be like Cheresh, but you don’t hear them. Sometimes you have to make yourself as if you’re deaf. You didn’t hear it. You don’t know what’s going on; you didn’t hear it.
Because when a person is strong, when he leaves the door—let’s say you have bullies, strong people, troublemakers, wise guys—people give them kavod (respect). Let’s say these guys went against you. They spoke words against you; they spoke embarrassing things, humiliating words. Not in front of you. They spoke against you, cursing and things like that. Don’t go and tell them, “I know what you’re...” I believe you didn’t hear it. You’re going to make a kavod for yourself. You’re not going to get them. They’re going to hurt you.
Sometimes you don’t... You heard what you said. You heard what you said. They might come home and say, “Well, he’s angry at us now. Now we’ll do it in front of him. Now we’ll do it even worse.” You have to know. But if they don’t know that he knows, it’s going to be their regret. Then what do we do that for? Maybe certain people don’t push the button. They give him kavod. They give him kavod.
So, if they speak a secret thing in a way that he knows and hears, he heard a certain secret that they revealed. Let’s say, for example, that he heard something that he didn’t hear, that he didn’t hear in his hearing, and he didn’t hear in his mouth. That’s it. Believe that you didn’t hear it when the person says, “Oh, you didn’t know? I didn’t hear anything. I wasn’t paying attention. Oh, it was still a secret.” Make it sound like you didn’t know what was being said over there, not to hurt the person.
When he’s arguing, when he’s fighting, close your mouth. Don’t answer back. You have to have some character. Even though the guy is instigating you, trying to get you to answer back, I told you, the best way to get the guy is not to answer back. He goes crazy. He’s serious because he wants to get you to answer back. Once you answer back, he won a little. But as long as he didn’t get you to answer back, the guy is going crazy.
He says, “Give your enemy the cheek. Let him hit you. And take the blue shot.” He’ll hit you. Don’t hit him back. Keep quiet. Don’t hit him back. Don’t hit him back. Don’t hit him back. Husband and wife. With his student. Employer with his employees. Don’t hit him back. Don’t hit him back.
Sometimes, parents should let it go and not hear everything the children say. Be a policeman, always. You heard them say something; make believe you didn’t hear it in front of you. Don’t always catch them. Don’t hit him back. Make believe you didn’t see. Don’t hit him back. Don’t hit him back. Don’t hit him back.
You heard something about your friend. They said something bad about him. Don’t hit him back. Make yourself a gun. Don’t hit him back. Don’t hit him back. Don’t hit him back. Don’t hit him back.
People come to you and say, “You know, they’re talking about me. Did you hear any rumors?” “Ah, I didn’t hear nothing.” You know, you heard they’re talking in the streets or whatever. You have to know when to say and when not to say. You have to fix it. You have to do something. Otherwise, you say, “No, but I don’t know. I didn’t hear anything. I don’t know.” So the guy feels good. “Okay, good. I didn’t hear anything.” You know, you heard. But you have to look at it. And every time you hear something like that, you have to look at it. There are times when you have to say it. So you have to say it. “Listen, the benefit of the guy, listen, they’re talking about you. You have to do something.” He hears that he hears and knows. And there are times when you have to be a man who doesn’t hear. That’s all the time. He hears, I hear. Okay.