Why is it that if a girl is single longer than she expected to be, she doesn't hide the fact that she's single? She wants to be married, but she understands this is an act from Hashem, and it is what it is. How come if a couple is married and doesn't have children, and it's definitely a difficult thing, they don't hide the fact that they don't have children? Because they understand this is what Hashem decided, and it is what it is. How come if someone has a tragedy in their family, they don't hide the tragedy? They understand this is what it is. So how come it is that if someone has less money than somebody else, they think they have to put on a show? How come you don't put on a show with this, you don't put on a show with that, you don't put on a show with this? Why is it you have to put on a show? It's the same Hashem that decides that and decides that, decides this.
Hashem for some reason decided that this person shouldn't be married yet, and this person shouldn't have children yet, and Hashem also decided that you shouldn't have as much money as your older sister. I don't know why He decided that way, or as your younger sister. I don't know why He decided that way, but He decided it that way. It's nothing to be embarrassed of. It doesn't mean anything. It doesn't say anything. In fact, those people who could walk around and sort of embrace the position—sometimes you go to a person's wedding, and it's a simple wedding, and they're happy. It's a simple wedding. They're beautiful people. They're wonderful people. Money's not their thing, and they make a wedding that's basically within their means. There's nothing embarrassing about that. They don't think they deserve to have a wedding that's a hundred thousand dollars more. They're comfortable in their own skin.
If we have this impression of what we should have, we therefore try to act like we have it. But if we understand we don't deserve anything, there's no, there's no just—we don't deserve it. It doesn't—just because your oldest doesn't deserve it, just because you were wealthy when you were a kid don't deserve it, just because you're smarter doesn't deserve, just because you did better in college doesn't mean you deserve it. But Hashem decides, and once Hashem decided, there's nothing to be embarrassed about. Once Hashem decided, you accept; be comfortable in your own skin the way you are. Now, I'm not delusional enough to think that this is easy to do, and I'm not even delusional to think that most people that are listening to this will actually do it. But I do think it's a perspective we need to work to achieve, because if you believe in Hashem, then you're not trying to hide what Hashem gave you or didn't give you. You got to then accept the role and the position you're in, and you're not expecting or believing you're deserving something else.
Menashe said, “Okay, I am a good man, but for some reason you decided I should be the second one. I should get the left hand. Okay.” And the beauty of Menashe accepting his role is he's still in the Beracha (blessing). Reuven, Shimon, Levi, Yehudah, they're not in the Beracha. The only ones that are in the Beracha are Ephraim and Menashe. Ephraim because Hashem—he should go first—and then Menashe because he accepted the fact that he goes second, so for the rest of history he's second in a category that only two people ever were able to achieve. That's wonderful too. Why can't we be comfortable with what Hashem decided? Why do we believe and therefore have to fake like we're somebody else?