The humility is captured best by Avraham Avinu. Avraham Avinu said about himself, “Anochi afar va'efer.” I am like dirt and like ashes. He said, “I'm nothing.” The reason he became the first really great man on planet Earth is not by accident; it's because he was humble and wasn't about his body anymore. It wasn't about his obsessions anymore. It wasn't about himself. That's why he was the person who was the model of chesed (kindness). Because it wasn't about his body anymore. It wasn't about his ego. It wasn't about himself. Instead, it was about what he could give and how the soul could live.
So that's why when the Torah describes this man who became impure by touching the dead body, he has to be purified with... The Torah uses those two words, afar and efer. Because the way to become purified is to humble yourself. The way to become purified is to make it not about you. So when you interact with people, don't judge them. They're in the middle of a struggle. Every person you meet, you're going to come home, you're going to see a son, hopefully, you're going to see a daughter, you're going to see a spouse. You're going to see a parent. They're in a battle. Right now, as they talk to you, they're in a battle between body and soul. And it may be in this conversation, their neshama (soul) wins. And it could be in the next conversation, their body wins. It could be in the next conversation, their group wins. It could be their ego wins. They're struggling. They're not absolutely great. And they're not absolutely terrible.
So when a parent judges a child and is upset at a child, “Why are you lazy? Or why are you all about yourself?” They're not all about themselves. They're struggling with themselves, just like you're struggling with yourself. Sometimes you see a sibling, and you're like, “Oh, they have such an ego.” Or you see a friend—or not a friend, someone you see. “Oh, they're full of themselves.” No, they're just struggling.
When you get absolute, you become naive. You don't get people. But when you realize that even the greatest of people, and the most wonderful people, and holy people, and even at times struggle with an ego or need or a frustration or an anger—obviously on a much higher level than regular people—there are even regular people that seem not so great. And at times, their neshama wins.