So, I'm going to play a game. Let's make a deal. I have two boxes. Two boxes. One box has in it one million dollars cash. The other box has in it whatever amount of money Hashem wants for you. Which box would you choose? Two boxes. One box has a million dollars cash, and the other box has in it as much as Hashem wants for you. Which one are you picking?
Don't tell me number two. I should be speaking to men. I know what they'll choose. Don't give me that. If you saw a million dollars right there in the box, it'd be very, very hard for you not to take that million dollars because you're just going to trust Hashem. If that's the case, you should never get anxious in your life. When you want whatever it is you want—you want to get a parking spot, and Hashem now chose the other box: whatever parking spot Hashem wants for you—we're just three blocks away and walking in the rain. That's what Hashem wants for you. Which box are you choosing?
Everyone here, you all said—all you high and mighty holy people said—that you're choosing the box, whatever Hashem wants for you. Good. If that's the case, don't ever get anxious another day in your life. When you have something that you want and then all of a sudden it's not happening, that's okay. Just stop and say, “Hashem, I am now opening the box that's called whatever Hashem wants for you. I don't even know what you're saying, but whatever Hashem wants for you.” That's it. That's the box. Whatever Hashem wants for you.
So now, let's say you're dating and you're anxious. You don't know if the boy is going to say yes or not. It's okay, because if he says no, then that's what Hashem wanted for you. Let's say you're trying to sell a product and you don't know if they're going to buy it or not. It's okay. If they don't buy it, it's whatever Hashem wants for you. I'm not going to keep going. There should be nothing to worry about. If Shabbat is coming and you don't know if the family is going to want to come to your house or someone else's house, who cares? Your house is the box with the million dollars. Someone else's house is whatever Hashem wants for you. Just whatever Hashem wants for you. What are you worried about?
Everyone here was willing to walk out of the room and leave a million dollars in the box. That's what all of you people said. You walk out of the room and leave a million dollars in the box, and you're just wondering, “Why did you walk out with the box that says, ‘Whatever Hashem wants for me’?” So every day, when you have things that you want and all of a sudden it seems like it's not happening, say, “It's fine. I took the other box, the ‘whatever Hashem wants for you’ box.”
Most people—maybe my box example was a good one, because maybe now it'll make you think of it that way—but most people don't think this way. Most people get anxious. Most people get frustrated when it's not going their way. Most people get annoyed when they want A and it looks like Hashem might be sending B. They wanted this thing to happen. They wanted to be invited. It looks like they're not going to be invited. They wanted the raise. It looks like they're not going to get the raise. Most people get frustrated because, again, the definition of anxiety is when I want one thing and I get anxious because Hashem wants another.
If you're so confident that you would take the first box, you would take the second box, you would take the Hashem box, don't ever get anxious again in your life, because just take the box that He's giving you. And the truth is, that really is what you should do. The next time you want something badly and you prayed for it and you cried for it and you worked for it and you prayed for it and cried for it and worked for it and prayed for it and cried for it and worked for it and prayed for it and cried for it and you've done this for days and then weeks and then months and maybe even years, you know what you're supposed to do at some point? You're supposed to stop and give up. Completely give up.
Now, give up doesn't mean throw your hands in the air and say, “I lost.” Give up means throw your hands in the air and say, “Hashem, I kept trying for the million dollar box. I now give up. I accept whatever box, whatever you have in the other box. I give up to you.” Any person, any person in any situation you're in—if you're frustrated, you're frustrated, you're frustrated, you're frustrated—stop trying to run after the million dollar box and say, “Hashem, I'm taking your box. Hashem, I give up.” That's the mode. That's what Hashem wants you. V'lo anachnu. I am not, we are not in control. V'lo with an aleph. We are not in control. Hashem, I give up to you.
So whenever you have this, you might have something in your mind right now that you've been waiting for, that you've been praying for, that you've been hoping for, that you've gotten so much frustration and anxiety over. Stop. Just stop. Say, “Hashem, I'm taking the other box. Hashem, I give up on the million dollars. I am just completely in your hands. Whatever you want, that's what I'm gonna do.”