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A Yissachar / Zebulun Partnership in Loving Memory of Yishak ben Simcha A"H & Felicia bat Miriam A"H
Rabbi Moshe Haber

Torah Lecture

Avoiding Falsehood and Embracing Truth

Lectured by Rabbi Moshe Haber

Published
May 14, 2025
Duration
21:17
Lecture code
RMH-MY-23

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Now, until 18. The topic at hand is hidden lying from our repertoire total: completely cleansing ourselves in the middle of lying. None of us would pretty much say, “Now I’m writing a lie.” That’s not what we do. But there are a lot of lies. There are many, many layers to lying. My kids always ask me that. You stitch them in the wine. It's actually, yeah, it's actually, as if that's steeped me. We're painting it. Look over here. The one I shake here, the topic of lying, that's why it's for the young people.

However, there are many different degrees of lying. There are people whose profession is to lie. That’s what they do. They walk around and completely bring out and create total falsehood. They seem smart. They’re very talkative. They have things to say. They seem like the wise ones, as if they know a lot. So it is a terrible word. I mean, it’s disgusting. Hashem considers such people literally vulnerable. Those who have lips are falsehood. His lips speak falsehood. His tongue is invalid. And speaking is invalid is a very bad word from ages since.

Meaning, this person is totally out of line. And then we quote this: There are four groups that are not able to accept the Shechinah (Divine Presence): the group of liars. A person who is part of the crew of liars has zero regard for truth. Such a person is part of that group. This person is completely separate from Hashem. Who are the other four? Who are the other four? Kind of three people who flatter, like a full sketch of flatter, those who speak as if it’s normal. I forgot the fourth one. Telling you why something is flatter? I’m not talking about flatter. I’m talking about flatter. I’m not lying either. When the buyer comes in and the seller has a small thing, that’s about it, right? Let's see about that. That’s fine: “I can’t believe how well you look.”

There are others who are not this bad, but they’re close in line with the full-fledged liars. It may not literally be the same, but these people support the full-fledged liars. Those who exaggerate. If I look at these stories, I know that's not the way of life. It just creates, you know, people just say things that would never exist. That's not the second degree. When they’re talking about something and want to bring out a point, they’ll mix something that comes to mind into the conversation. Even if it’s not true, it becomes, as we called it, second nature. This is not what they set out to do, but this is what comes up in the conversation because they're saying, “Well, no second world.” They become people whose words you cannot trust. They say something, and it sounds cheaply true; too often, it doesn’t sound right. They’re not really getting to know, and they make it like they are all that stuff. I’m not going to accuse them of being liars, but you get a sense that they’re not really on the right track in their words. Eventually, people don’t trust them because we hurt them. That’s an angle that can happen.

Dover shekarim lo yikon leneged einai (He who speaks falsehood shall not be established before my eyes). This is the punishment of a fabricator. Dover shekarim lo yikon leneged einai. This is punishment even when he says the truth. It’s the boy-who-cried-wolf theory. Even when he says the truth, we don’t listen to him because it has become their nature, part of themselves. You can't say it from your words. That is a guaranteed truism. I don’t know that for a fact. It may be; it may not be. Because that’s the situation, they become completely untrustworthy. Whatever is happening, it’s a punishment to them. They get up and say, “No one cares.” It’s so cool, but no one really cares, and it might be true. It’s the boy-who-cried-wolf theory. It works for them. That’s what he’s saying. It’s a natural punishment. They train their dogs to be forced as they're striving to be crooked. They get used to this.

The difference between the first level and the second level, besides the levels and degrees of badness, is that one person set out to do so. This guy didn’t plan on this. He allowed it to happen. He got used to this way of talking, and it became second nature. It’s part truth and part because of the son of a robot. Exactly. He had to set out to be a liar to stop it. Not really. He just seems like maybe not so. He got used to saying it. He wanted to get it as part of the—what’s the truth? “Do you think they believe what they’re saying?” We're all like that, ape to a certain. We know what Joel was saying. We’re not sure what he was saying. He got to be told, trying to get it, trying to get it out, and then it came out a little extra.

What are you marketing? It’s the right politics. Definitely politics. Politics is worse. How are politicians? If you look at Biden, what is it? He’s a liar, liar. He’s a liar. He knew what he was saying years ago. He’s just a liar. He was—I have to exaggerate something. Exaggerating is a different level. It's not the same level. After all this, it's not this. This is if the guy throws in there some stories that kind of—he was just there. It’s insane. And now our family, now we're all in the world. It's not the same crew as exaggerating, but this guy is saying falsehoods. He’s trying to make the story sound a little more colorful. He brings out, he believed I was there in a rainbow. He is called right.

There’s a third level whose illness is a little lighter than the first two. These are people who are not literally saturated in falsehood. It’s not part of the DNA, but they don’t mind shake it. They don’t feel the need to separate themselves from falsehood, and if it comes out, they’ll let it happen. Sometimes they’ll say it in a joking way, hoping people don’t really know whether it was a joke or real. No bad bench, no malicious intent. However, the rabbis tell us Hashem does not like that third degree either, because although the guy is manly, he's saying it as the truth, still bringing out words that are not in man. What does it mean to keep away, to distance yourself? It doesn’t say, “Don’t lie.” It says, “Keep away, keep a distance, keep it afraid. It is not a force.” Keep a distance means that don't even have any connection. Don’t even allow it to come out in a joking way, especially if people might think this ain't the truth. Keep yourself separate from falsehood. It’s the opposite of Hashem.

You shouldn’t talk a lot, because when you talk a lot, that eventually happens. When you talk a lot, a lot of other problems come out. One of them is lying, insults. They all come from talking absolutely. All my days I grew up among the rabbis. I couldn’t find anything better for the body than silence. It doesn’t say the source of the body, which means it’s for your own good. It makes you look better. It makes you look smarter. It makes you more well accepted. If you’re quiet, then you have less knocks against you. If you talk a lot, at least you can find things in your history that are your flaws.

A politician is a rising star. He’s lucky if he didn’t have much of a history. He's much worse off if he spoke a lot of history, because then they'll find something on him, right? These guys are much better off if they didn’t say anything, even though they didn’t vote on any issues, which means they have no real stance. It doesn’t matter. It can't catch him. But if you talk a lot, you’re in trouble or at risk. I’m not saying it’s a bad thing to talk. What I am saying is that it’s much riskier to talk, and in this example, talking falsely or even having any level of falsity is something you have to keep away from.

Now he analyzed the word to his heart. The point of it is that there’s a point I want to see more of this in the second, where the idea is sheker—falsity is the complete contrast to the existence of the world. Your existence, my existence, reality, Hashem’s existence: they’re all at risk when you have falsehood. Every one of those things is represented by a man, exactly. When you add falsehood, everything in the world that you know of is at risk. We paint pictures for a living. That’s how life is. You paint the picture. Everything is defending all what people believe, right? So-and-so has major statuses. Why? Because people believe he’s very successful. Some of us are the big deal because people think that he comes from a great family, or people think he’s very smart, people think he’s a big rabbi, whatever it may be. What people believe makes that person; your identity becomes your existence, right? It’s not just regarding your identity. It’s about anything in the world. It’s a beautiful skyscraper. It looks very sharp because it seems to represent something very expensive, something bad, something valuable. What if I told you it’s a pile of tin and it’s going to fall in a minute, and it was made terribly?

There was a building built on McDonald Avenue at Avenue M. I believe it was a very big building. Is that why they started it then? It was intended for some of the yeshivas. It was very large, and now they took it down and they’re rebuilding it. Why did they take it down? It was not built properly. It was not built at all. I don’t think it was built to code, and they had to take it down. Schools were going to take it, and then they all didn’t take it because it was a dangerous building. So you look at that building originally, two years ago, and you see this very big building here in the center of Brooklyn. It’s a great location for that. It’s a great size, perfect for a school. It's great. You should be a bully, right? Is that right? And giving you one bully and bullying. Wait, it's way before my boys and the girls, you know? Yes. Okay, we'll shut that 80s. Oh wow. Okay, sorry, I didn't—maybe earlier than that. So this is the Brooklyn. Oh wow. So that building, big 60s. This is all that building. If you look at it, it looks great, but now you find out that it really is part of not really a very healthy state building. That’s a sketch in the world we live in. Everything like that is a sketch. So if you represent the sketch, my point is like this: all the buildings, all these things are in existence, and it all so it can represent an existence lying. You can’t detect it. So we did a drill. Of course, that’s why lying is so bad.

We recorded. We said, “Everyone record yourself at work for an hour,” and then we brought it to the class and went through it. So many times you’re saying, “This is the best item,” and “This is a,” and, and, and. It was like detoxing from just having a natural way. The intention is not to lie or deceive anyone, but just to draw your making on a show-making for all of us. Then we did another drill a month later, after trying to work on ourselves, where you don’t say anything other than fact. Twelve T-shirts come in a box. It’s white. There’s the price, just right, like vanilla, and you say in jail. In 95% of the people, they said they did it in the correct the cell. The customer who was going to get it, who was going to buy it. All right, we are so raised on a different mindset, right? Willingness. And this now I care about.

We stopped sketching for a month. We were doing this drill, and we all went to work a month later, and we made a sale. Not say my best idea behind some reordering. You just thin the facts. You don't like the specs. Twelve in the box, 34 pounds, either stock the 297. Just the fact: the bride it is the fact. I'll cut that. The atmosphere that we’re among is that you have to get the sale done, and the way to get the sale is by driving it home, saying whatever you need to get it done. That’s the mindset. But that's again to have a relationship also with one definitely else. That's not a death of this challenge. Relationship is great. You do your work to get the sale, but here you’re utilizing the impulse fruit. You get the job done, and it’s creating a world that doesn’t exist.

We were saying their reputations are that way, buildings are that way, sales are that way, and a person has to stop themselves and say, “I am going against Hashem’s existence on this earth. Sheker is the contradiction to God’s existence.” That’s how strong it is. God has a major problem with it for that reason, because it’s going against. Let things be where they are. Let your reputation talk for itself, like who you are talk for itself. Let you all look great; looks not fake.

People have certain houses that are really made very cheaply, but they didn't use certain things to make it look expensive, right? It’s all the same thing. You really don't care evil out of fake jewelry. That's the wrong with fake jewelry at all, but the mindset of a jewelry, if you really want everyone to know it's fake and stuff, if you're trying to make it look real and what you're trying to do is you can get the regal machine when these Chinese right for sixty dollars, fifty dollars, thirty dollars, and they were thousand dollars issues. You get them literally for less than fifty dollars. Why would someone get for a gamma shoes for that price? Because they want to represent the fact that they’re wearing shop shoes at the same time and not paying the price. That is false. I’m not saying don’t do it, but I am saying it’s representing something that doesn’t exist. If you realize that with your words, then you’re lying. I mean, you’re lying, then you’re going to go against Hashem’s existence and what God likes and what it does. It trains us to be really people. They go to the depth of lying. It trains us to need people who maneuver and try to create our own world. Ultimately, lying is a lack of faith. That's what it is. Lying is a lack of emunah (faith). Lying is creating something that doesn’t exist, trying to build a world, a picture that says, “I’m not going to leave it up to God. I’m not going to let them do the talking. I’m going to allow my stuff to try to create a world.” Then they give you numbers that don’t exist. What are they doing? They’re saying clearly, “I cannot get the money without making things look the same way.” They come with the picture of the one full day where they do all these sketches. We know there are sketches and all these seats. What you’re doing is saying, “Hashem, I don’t trust that you can do it. I need to make my own moves.” That is good. That’s why Hashem doesn’t accept the people. That’s why it’s so strong. That is the person who’s creating a world that basically needs to make his own version of the world. Gods can't do it for him.

That’s the same thing. That’s actually the same thing. When the fundraiser guy comes to you and says, “All right, yeah, you know, we already raised a poor million and a half million dollars. Well, our budget is $750,000.” I’m not sure if it’s smart to say a high budget or a low budget. I started figuring that out. Either way, I could see—if it’s a low budget, it’s better. I could see—if the guy’s struggling with a low budget, then you could really help him. If the guy’s struggling with a big budget, then he’s just like a little drop, be on the other side of the stack. Yes, that’s someone else’s problem. I know from the inside that there are two ways to represent every budget. You can represent the budget as very big, and you can skim it down, skim it down. It adds your angle. That fellow is lying per se. That’s just small marketing. But there are things that are fake. Take a picture of a room. It looks packed because some other organization used your room, right? And now you want to be getting your people to say, “Well, I don’t know what they have.” We have two people look at the room, packed. And there’s a different organization that came to visit your school. That’s a sketch. That means you don’t trust in Hashem. That means God can’t get the job done for you. You need to get it done. That’s why some people don’t like it, because you’re saying, “Where’s your faith? Where are you allowing me to exist?” That’s the challenge. That’s what’s at stake.

It’s spoken about being honest a bit. One of the people had a big report that they said that not being honest in business shows you a lack of faith because you have to take it in your hand as opposed to being in Hashem. That’s exactly right. That’s my biggest point. So that’s why Hashem doesn’t like it, and it’s something that we have to weed out of our system.

Even when parents tell little kids things, right? I’ll give you an example. I noticed a woman, a babysitter, with a little child. The child’s crying. I don’t mind her. “Mommy's coming. Two minutes, two minutes.” Mommy’s not coming in two minutes. Then the child said, “There’s just a different life.” It’s allowed. All these different lives. It's allowed the kids to live. “I hate you.” But as it goes along, I watch this person. Wow. It's a created world, and it doesn't exist. And it's damaging for her because she gets used to a couple of stories. The whole thing was stories. She said, “Mommy's coming soon.” Right, sure, it’s fine. But two minutes, two minutes—it’s not coming in two minutes. All these things. “Mommy’s going to come bring you a big lolly.” I saw this firsthand. You’ve got to be true. It’s all false. I’m sorry.